Thursday, December 31, 2009

Another One Bites the Dust

It's that time of year when we all sit back and take stock of our lives--what we've accomplished (or failed to accomplish) in the past year. I know I had big plans for this year, but inevitably fell short of my dreams. However, I'm still healthy, my family is still intact, and I have a lot to be grateful for and to look forward to in 2010. I got an idea from Rozanne Paxman at scrapgirls.com. I receive her newsletter, and I love her most recent one where she lists what she wishes she had done this year and compares it to what she actually did. I think it's a great way to validate the little things that don't always get labeled as "accomplishments."

I would like to be able to tell you that in the past year I...

  • Dropped a jeans size.
  • Ran a half marathon.
  • Read the entire Standard Works.
  • Kept a journal.
  • Finished the YW Personal Progress program.
  • Took an exotic vacation.
  • Successfully avoided eating sugar.
  • Finished the quilt I've been working on.

Instead, I have to tell you that in the past year I...

  • Am still working on the jeans issue.
  • Am still working on finishing the Book of Mormon.
  • Ate more than my fair share of candy and treats.
  • Failed to get organized at work.
  • Read many young adult and children's' novels.
  • Spent way too much time on the computer.

However, in the past year I also...

  • Survived Girls Camp, yet again.
  • Did the temple work for my great-aunt.
  • Took a family vacation to Bryce Canyon.
  • Spent a weekend with my husband and saw Brian Regan live (woo-hoo!).
  • Moved.
  • Celebrated my 20th wedding anniversary.
  • Acquired another teenager.
  • Created many fun craft projects with the kiddos.
  • Joined Facebook.

In the next year, I am hoping to...

  • Be more alert to the needs of others.
  • Listen better.
  • Spend more personal time with my girls.
  • Date my husband.
  • Continue to develop my relationship with God.
  • Push away from the computer.
  • Be strong and patient while Mike is in Iraq.
  • Keep exercising, even if I don't drop a jeans size.
  • Read more of what I want to read.
  • Stop feeling guilty for things I can't control.
  • Allow myself time to create, as creating makes me happy.
  • Learn to keep my mouth shut.

Sadly my year didn't account to much, but here's to 2010!


 

Tuesday, December 29, 2009

20 Years With This Man

Sunday (the 27th) was our 20th anniversary. It's a milestone I'm proud of. I'm proud to say that we as a couple have made it this many years, but also that I have survived living with this crazy nut! Mike is a great husband and father, and isn't too macho to allow his girls to dress him up. What a sport!

Yes, I Am Alive

Wow, I haven't posted anything for two months! That's a long time. But it doesn't really matter because nobody reads my blog anyway. For my own satisfaction, however, I need to write something to finish up this year. Eventually I intend to have this thing published into a book so I can remember what we did this past year, so it behooves me to play "catch up."

It has been an eventful two months. Crazy things have been taking place--completely self-induced crazy things, so I can't legitimately complain. Let me start at the beginning. . .

Quite some time ago (like a year or so) Mike decided it would be "interesting" to volunteer for a four month temporary duty in Iraq. The government sends agents who do his kind of work over to do whatever they do. I can't tell you, or I'd have to kill you. But anyway, he signed up (against my wishes) and (thankfully) they kept picking other people to go. However, his name stays on the list, and every time a new rotation comes up he could be chosen. The chance arose again in October, but an agent from another office was picked, and I naively breathed a sigh of relief and went back to life-as-usual.

Also quite some time ago we started looking around at homes and land because eventually we wanted to try and move into a different home with a bigger backyard. We have always wanted to try and build, and with the market in the state that it is we thought it was a good time to start getting serious. We found some lots that we have kept our eye on for about a year now, and prices have dropped significantly. So we decided it was time to do something. But we knew we would need to sell our house before we could make any legitimate offers. So, the week after Halloween we decided to put our house on the market just to see what would happen. We figured it would take 6 months or so to sell it based on trends in the local housing market.

Long story short: House listed on MLS on Friday, November 6th. First potential buyer came to look at the house Monday, November 9th. Same buyer comes back Wednesday, November 11th to take another look. This buyer makes an offer that night. We counter the next day, and he accepts. Voila! House is under contract, and we have to be out December 1st.

Rewind to the Iraq deal. The Thursday we signed papers for the house contract, Mike received a call telling him that HE would be going to Iraq, not the other guy. Surprise! Hyperventilate! Mike was excited, I wasn't. The only redeeming thing about the whole deal is that he doesn't need to leave until mid-February. Which leaves me holding the "building-a-house-and-dealing-with-contractors" bag all by myself. Not my idea of fun, as I am not an assertive, take-charge person.

Now mind you, I didn't even have a cardboard box yet. So the next couple of weeks turned into a packing frenzy. I was completely horrified at how much stuff (a.k.a. "crap") I had accumulated! Not to mention the pounds and pounds of food storage that we had squirreled away. Thankfully we have generous friends who turned out to help pack, clean, and move us. What awesome folks!

We had to find a place to rent, pronto. We had a couple of options that didn't work out, so we ended up renting a house 4 doors down from our old house. Right after we got moved in, Mike started a two-week. 7-days-a-week Iraq training, during which he was barely home. He would leave at 5:30 or 6:00 a.m. and get home at 8:30 p.m. or later, dead tired. It was a little "baptism by fire" for both of us. Mike was completely beat, and I thought I was going to go totally insane taking care of things at home, working, Young Women's, and shoveling snow (I swear it snowed almost every day!).

But we made it through that crazy time, celebrated Christmas, and currently we are waiting to hear back from a bank about an offer we submitted on a lot. We are getting bids from builders on our floorplan. We are excited about the prospects of getting into a new home, but I have to get through the four months of Mike in Iraq before I can let myself be too giddy. He knows several guys who have gone and come back without incident, but I have to be realistic and tell myself that something could happen to him. That is the bummer in this whole deal. But I can't change it, so I'll just have to deal with it. All I can do is move forward the best I can, and pray Mike comes home and we have a place to move into when he gets back. We still feel very blessed to have been able to have our home sell so quickly, and to have found a place to rent where our kids' lives didn't get disrupted too much. Sometimes it scares me when we get exactly what we wished for. It makes me have "happiness anxiety"--like we wished for the wrong thing, or that something bad is going to happen now because such "good fortune" can't be justified with some kind of suffering. I guess we'll just have to wait and see.